You are learning that you cannot love another unless you truly love yourself. Everything you think and feel about others changes when you embrace loving yourself. No matter what you have been through up this point, you are a divine spark of love. No matter what other people have told you about who you are. You are a reflection of what you believe.
If you want to heal your relationship with yourself, have compassion for where you have been, your journey. Be kind to yourself and see the beauty in who you really are. Be compassionate, let go of the guilt, shame and the opinions others have about you. Love yourself unconditionally. You are worthy of love.